Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Summer is so much fun!


I've always said that Spring and Fall are my favorite seasons -- and in terms of temperature and nature's beauty they are!  But summer is pretty tough to be beat in terms of FUN!!  Staying up late, sleeping in most days, road trips, visiting with friends and family....good times! 

On Friday the 20th we went to New York for a quick trip to the Hill Cumorah Pageant.  It was Francesca's first time to see the pageant and my second.  We went with Heidi and Katie Menasco and Alicia and Ally Slavin.  A van full of girls!  Lots of talking and giggling.  The drive up was kind of drizzly and rainy - but in the afternoon it cleared and we had a beautiful evening to enjoy the show.
 
Francesca and I went to the Smith Family Homestead and strolled through the Sacred Grove.  We had a nice time talking about spiritual things.  We visited the best ice cream place -- The Grill and Chill -- and then spent time visiting with cast members.  The BEST was running into the Sturgill family (wish I'd gotten a picture!) 

The sacred grove with Francesca

Before the show started

Such an awesome true story - and show!

The next day we drove home and then on Sunday and Monday we spent time with our good friends the Lohrfinks - we celebrated Jason's 1st birthday and spent the day at the State Fair.  We love spending time with this awesome family!!

Missing from this collage - all the yummy treats - candy apples, fried oreos, chilli cheese dogs and on and on -- we all had a treat and they were scrumptious!
Hopefully I can update with a few beach pics this week -- we need to hit that place at least once this summer before we move!!

Enjoy your summer -- August is coming and with it "Back to School!"


Sunday, July 15, 2012

Patriotism and the Constitution - Talk given by Kathleen Baber on 7-15-2012


This is pretty close to what I said this morning -- although I try not to read word for word from my written page. I added links to President Benson's talk (by the way - I say in my talk that he gave this address the same month of the Ensign - not true - he gave the devotional in Sept 86, published in Sept 87 Ensign - my bad) and for the DVD I mentioned. Thanks to everyone who said they enjoyed it.

Good Morning,

I was asked to speak about our country and what it means to me – especially in regards to having served as a military family and how that ties into my testimony.
I thought I knew exactly what I was going to say when I was given this opportunity to talk – and then I was looking for a couple of quotes to use and became so inspired by a talk I found that I totally scrapped my original talk. I pray that my inspiration wasn’t just for my benefit but also for a friend or two here in the congregation.

I love July – I love that we celebrate Independence Day and honor our Pioneer forefathers – both those that founded this country and those that crossed the plains to find a place free of religious persecution. And these two important groups are so intertwined that it is simply impossible for me to celebrate the one without celebrating the other.

As most of you know my husband served in the Air Force for 20 years and retired here at Dover Air Force base. I have been blessed to come from a military family – my dad served for 26 years in the Air Force and was part of the Berlin Air Lift – My brother is Active Duty, my sister and sister-in-law both served in the Air Force, my husband and brother–in-law are both retired Air Force and my mother and father both served and retired from the Department of Defense. So I have a lot of pride when it comes to the Armed Forces. We were blessed with some pretty amazing opportunities both state-side and overseas while Active Duty and like so many missionaries who serve foreign missions our eyes were opened to many things we take for granted in this country and how precious our freedoms are.

We are blessed to have a sacred document in this country that establishes the government and by amendment our freedoms – I’m speaking of the constitution. I want to give a quick history lesson – because I know that I often think – ok, so they signed the Declaration of Independence on July 4th, a couple of years of fighting happened and then “ ta da” we had the United State of America. But when you get down to the facts it’s really very interesting – and a lot more complicated – and it’s in that complexity that we really see the workings of the Lord in the bringing forth of this great nation. So I’m going to give you a little more detail – but I urge you to read some good books on the subject and check out this movie: “A More Perfect Union” – I bought it through Deseret, it was produced by BYU to commemorate the 200th anniversary of the Constitution. Link to DVD on Deseret Here.


The colonies began their rebellion in 1775, declared their independence in 1776 and the fighting ended in 1781 --- that’s 6 years of fighting to be recognized as a nation. But the treaty ending the war wasn’t signed until 1783 due in part to the form of government that had been established under the articles of confederation.
It wasn’t until 1787 that Constitutional convention was held – so for 11 years the we had a different form of government – that was very decentralized – with most rights residing within the states for self-government (interesting tidbit – Delaware was 11th to sign this document) – so many issues arose during that time that it became evident that a new form of government was needed. Doesn’t it always seem like we gloss over these events? …and yet they are so important to know if we truly want to understand what a divinely inspired document the Constitution is!



President Ezra Taft Benson gave an amazing devotional at BYU in September of 1987 that was published in the Ensign that same month – this is the address that changed my whole talk. It is called: The Constitution – A Glorious Standard. As many of you may know President Benson held high government office – he had a deep love and understanding of the Constitution, he spoke on the topic and wrote a book on the subject, he understood the times he lived in, the dangers our government faces and he was a Prophet of God. So when I read these words I was so struck at how they relate 25 years later – if they were true then they are true now. I promised Brother Menasco I wouldn’t just read someone else’s talk – so I urge you to look this up on lds.org – Sept 1987 Ensign – read all of it because I’m only going to share a few things with you here. Link to President Benson's talk here.

President Benson says:
To understand the significance of the Constitution, we must first understand some basic, eternal principles. These principles have their beginning in the premortal councils of heaven.

The first basic principle is agency.
The war that began in heaven over this issue is not yet over. The conflict continues on the battlefield of mortality. And one of Lucifer’s primary strategies has been to restrict our agency through the power of earthly governments.

Look back in retrospect on almost six thousand years of human history! Freedom’s moments have been infrequent and exceptional. We must appreciate that we live in one of history’s most exceptional moments—in a nation and a time of unprecedented freedom. Freedom as we know it has been experienced by perhaps less than 1 percent of the human family.


The second basic principle concerns the function and proper role of government.

…the most important single function of government is to secure the rights and freedoms of individual citizens.


The third important principle pertains to the source of basic human rights.

I’m going to paraphrase here in the interest of time – but President Benson puts forth the argument that you can either believe that your rights are given to you by God or by the government – and if given by the government then the government has the right to take them away – OR are certain right unalienable – a word that hard to say – but means inseparable from our very beings.


The fourth basic principle we must understand is that people are superior to the governments they form.

Since God created people with certain inalienable rights, and they, in turn, created government to help secure and safeguard those rights, it follows that the people are superior to the creature they created.

The fifth and final principle that is basic to our understanding of the Constitution is that governments should have only limited powers.

By deriving its just powers from the governed, government becomes primarily a mechanism for defense against bodily harm, theft, and involuntary servitude. It cannot claim the power to redistribute money or property nor to force reluctant citizens to perform acts of charity against their will. Government is created by the people. The creature cannot exceed the creator.

****Have you heard the term “redistribution of wealth” in our politics today – how does this paragraph written 25 years ago, by a prophet fit into that way of thinking??

President Benson goes on to say some wonderful things about the founding fathers -- but for time’s sake I won’t share that today. But I do want to share some of the things he says regarding the need for loyalty and support of the Constitution.

At this bicentennial celebration we must, with sadness, say that we have not been wise in keeping the trust of our Founding Fathers. For the past two centuries, those who do not prize freedom have chipped away at our Constitution until today we face a crisis of great dimensions. We are fast approaching that moment prophesied by Joseph Smith when he said:
“Even this nation will be on the very verge of crumbling to pieces and tumbling to the ground, and when the Constitution is upon the brink of ruin, this people will be the staff upon which the nation shall lean, and they shall bear the Constitution away from the very verge of destruction.”

…If we desire to be numbered among those who will [bear the Constitution away], here are some things we must do:

1. We must be righteous and moral. We must live the gospel principles—all of them. We have no right to expect a higher degree of morality from those who represent us than what we ourselves exhibit. To live a higher law means we will not seek to receive what we have not earned by our own labor. It means we will remember that government owes us nothing. It means we will keep the laws of the land. It means we will look to God as our Lawgiver and the Source of our liberty.

2. We must learn the principles of the Constitution and then abide by its precepts. Have we read the Constitution and pondered it? Are we aware of its principles? Could we defend it? Can we recognize when a law is constitutionally unsound?
President Benson quotes Abraham Lincoln:
“Let [the Constitution] be taught in schools, in seminaries, and in colleges; let it be written in primers, spelling-books, and in almanacs; let it be preached from the pulpit, proclaimed in legislative halls, and enforced in courts of justice. And, in short, let it become the political religion of the nation.”

3. We must become involved in civic affairs. As citizens of this republic, we cannot do our duty and be idle spectators.

4. We must make our influence felt by our vote, our letters, and our advice. We must be wisely informed and let others know how we feel.

As I pondered these words I was struck with the realization that the Oath of Enlistment my husband took when he joined the Air Force was to protect and defend this document – as is the Oath of Office Congress and the President take – in defending the Constitution they defend the Nation.

But it doesn’t take an Oath of Office, Enlistment or Commission to defend the Constitution – if we follow the steps President Benson has outlined here we too will be Defenders of the Nation. You don’t need to wear a uniform to love your country or be called a patriot – but it does take more than flying a flag on the 4th of July.

President Benson ended his talk with these words:

I reverence the Constitution of the United States as a sacred document. To me its words are akin to the revelations of God, for God has placed His stamp of approval on the Constitution of this land. I testify that the God of heaven sent some of His choicest spirits to lay the foundation of this government, and He has sent other choice spirits to preserve it.

We, the blessed beneficiaries, face difficult days in this beloved land, “a land which is choice above all other lands.” (Ether 2:10.) It may also cost us blood before we are through. It is my conviction, however, that when the Lord comes, the Stars and Stripes will be floating on the breeze over this people. May it be so, and may God give us the faith and the courage exhibited by those patriots who pledged their lives, their fortunes, and their sacred honor that we might be free, in the name of Jesus Christ, amen

I would like to add my testimony to his. I love this country – I love that it was a land specifically prepared for the restoration of the gospel and that if you learn history you can clearly see the Lord’s hand in that wonderful event that has so richly blessed my life. I love the men and women in the Armed Forces – and those in Government Office who are valiant in their defense of the Constitution – this is a very political time being an election year – I urge you to read and listen and be aware. I don’t believe in voting for or against anyone based on religion or race. We are better as a people than that – but I do believe it is a sacred duty to do our level best to cast an educated vote – to pray for good, honest and wise people to come forward and be willing to serve and then support them in all the ways we are capable. There is so much at stake.

Brothers and Sisters, our time in the Smyrna Ward is drawing to a close. This has been an incredibly difficult decision to leave – we’ve never lived anywhere longer than 4 years – and here we’ve been in Smyrna 9!!! I know Heavenly Father has a plan for us – He wants in Ohio closer to our extended family – we’ve seen His Hand in these events even though they’ve been difficult. We love you and will miss you. We ask for your help in continuing to love and care for Tori as she is staying here (at least for the time being). So we’ll definitely be back for visits.

I leave you my testimony – that Jesus Christ lives – that this is His Church and He is the Head of it. I’m so grateful for this knowledge.

In the name of Jesus Christ - Amen.

Monday, July 9, 2012

How I fell in love with Smryna

We moved to Delaware in August of 2003. Found our house, settled and moved in at the end of September. Met our fabulous neighbors shortly thereafter and started a great friendship...but it was really the summer of 2004 that my true love affair with the town started.

By then we had really settled in and our nightly dinners in the backyard with the Klases and Smiths were so much fun. Then there was the night we heard the firehouse band playing -- and then marching right down our street! I was blown away! But the 4th of July sealed the deal -- I was head over heels in love.

This was the Mayberry I'd always dreamed of. A wonderful hometown parade that featured the firehouse band, the firetrucks, local politicians kissing babies and shaking hands and lots of area businesses too. The park was turned into a carnival with contests, live (local) music and lawn mover races. We were so impressed that evening too when the fireworks show exceeded our expectations for two small towns combining their efforts.

Each year it's been the same love story - one year we entered Francesca and her cousin Sophia in the cutest baby contest (they did great, each receiving a ribbon!) -- 4 years ago Joe Biden walked our parade shaking hands as a presidential candidate. This is what the 4th of July should be like everywhere. I'm going to miss it -- and I wish it had been about 10 degrees cooler so we could have enjoyed the carnival on the 4th - but we saved it for Friday.

My Independence Day Celebrations will never be the same. Thank You Smyrna for fulfilling my childhood dream of what it should be -- living up to the small town ideal.

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Wednesday, July 4, 2012

The Baby of the Family turns 11!


June 28th, 2001 was a Thursday -- just as June 28th, 2012 was!  Francesca Lee Baber made her way into the world at 9 in the evening at Basset Hospital on Fort Wainwright Army Base in Fairbanks Alaska.  She was delivered by our good friend Vince Barnhart.  Eleven years later I'm still in love with her.  She's not perfect (I just picked her towel off the bathroom floor), but she's pretty close.
I feel like I have this one last year to enjoy her "little girl" time.  Next year she'll be out of Primary and in the Young Women's program at church -- truly a pre-teen.  I'm so not ready for that.
On Francesca's Birthday, Francesca, Tori and I went to see "Brave" at the theater and had lunch in the food court.  We enjoyed the movie -- kind of a perfect movie for Moms and Daughters!  
A friend of ours told me years ago that in her large family they designated certain birthdays as "party" years.  When you turn 5, 8, 12, and 16 you could have a party.  I thought this was a fantastic idea.  So we adopted it as our own -- but Tori totally made out with multiple parties before its institution.  Poor Francesca on the other hand only had a party when she was 5.  The 8 year old party we moved back a couple of years -- never seemed like we got it all together in time to pull it off -- we often were on the road or had company during that time period (not that we didn't celebrate -- it just wasn't a kid party).  So finally she got her party this year.  I guess that means she'll get back to back parties next year -- with new friends -- but it's definitely going to be more low key.  Birthday parties are just so pricey even when you're trying to go cheap!!
So Francesca decided she wanted a Lego themed party.  She's our Tom Boy.  I did a Pinterest search and found some really cute ideas -- we didn't go as overboard as some but I think we had a really good time.  We had planned a couple of games centered around Legos but what transpired was everyone playing in the water outside.  It was total mayhem and they loved it.  We had two slip and slides going on and a baby pool with 20 water guns ready and waiting. There were a few water balloons but the night's previous storm pretty much demolished the small reserve we'd started.
We had a nice group of kids -- pretty evenly split between boys and girls.  Francesca received some nice gifts too.  It was a really fun day -- and playing in the water felt good with all the heat.  I was so beat afterwards -- and can't say I was disappointed when church was cancelled because the power hadn't been restored yet (more damage from the storm).
I'm glad to say she finally got a birthday party -- and with her childhood friends too.  We joked later that the only thing that would have made it better was if Dad could have been there and it ended with dinner at Old Mill for crabs -- sigh -- somethings aren't meant to be.  We're still looking forward getting to Old Mill before the end of the summer!

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Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Home Again Home Again Jiggity Jig

Well school is done... Francesca's last day at PCA was eventful. Sunday late night/early morning I realized the snuggle bunny lying next to me in bed was warm. Very warm. In the morning we took her temp - 101. She desperately wanted to go and say good-bye and of course it was field day which is always so much fun. So we took some Tylenol and it came down to 99 and I took her to school. I let her teacher know what was happening and that I'd be on standby to pick her up if she started feeling badly. The phone rang about 11:30 from the nurse. Francesca was sick and throwing up -- she continued the rest of the day with fever and vomiting. We talked about it later that perhaps this was a tender mercy. She'd been dreading the final good-byes and yet when I picked her up, getting home was all she cared about.

Two days later we went to visit Barry in Ohio. We had a really fun few days with our Enon crew. We attended a flag retirement ceremony, sang karoke, went roller skaing, played putt-putt, registered at the new school - did some house hunting, and did a few chores too. On the way home we visited with the Carons in Lore City - Francesca enjoyed her day as a mermaid barely emerging from the pool long enough to eat. It was a jam packed week and a half.

Coming home to Delaware was bittersweet. We love this house and this town. I realized it was probably my last "homecoming" here - and the house was so neat and tidy that it didn't quite feel like mine. It took a little bit to feel "lived in" again - but the joy of sleeping in my own bed again helped a LOT! It was also wonderful to see Tori again -- she's doing great and loving her roommates and new home.

We've had a few showings but no offers yet on the house. I'm working very hard on letting go of anxiety and trusting that all will happen in the Lord's way and time. I know when I saw this house it was mine -- that I was lead to it and there was no doubt that it was prepared for our family. I hope that the next family who's supposed to live here is praying too -- for a special to call their own and that they too will feel lead here. I just hope they find it soon! Limboland is not my favorite place to reside but I'm learning to let go and let God. After a long prayer this afternoon I'm feeling much better! I know He's mindful of me and my anxieties, what I need to learn and how much we need to be together again as a family.
The Retirement Ceremony
How it looked before - 9000 flags!
Cesca singing karoke with Uncle Dave and Dad -- she sang quite a few with Sophie too!
David at Skyborn Skateland
Udders of Putters at Youngs!

Friday, April 20, 2012

Taking Time to Smell...the Azaleas!

Okay -- so Azaleas don't really have a fragrance but Francesca and I took time this morning to enjoy their beauty. Everywhere I've ever lived I've always been in a panic when I know I'm leaving...all those places to go and see that I haven't gotten around to. There are tons of places in this area that fall in that category. But today I get to check one off my list -- this home in Odessa. Here's an article about how it came to be: http://www.middletowntranscript.com/news/x876167045/Odessa-in-full-bloom

The Primary Song, "I think the World is Glorious" kept going through my mind as we were walking their yard today. What a wonderful thing to share with everyone -- it might not be Longwood Gardens but it was awesome to think that one family could accomplish this without charging admission!! We weren't alone this morning either - one lady I talked to for a second said it was her third time there this week!

Francesca told me that this was a testimony to her of how much her Heavenly Father loves her -- I couldn't agree more. So grateful for my sweet daughter who has learned this life lesson from her parents and grandparents -- to look for the beauty and feel the testimony. I sing and sing and sing and sing - a song of joy and love. I sing and sing and sing and sing my thanks to God above.









Thursday, April 19, 2012

The Craft Room - sigh

Today I dismantled my craft room; my much wanted, often neglected, rarely used craft room. I'm frustrated with myself. It's a small room and so it was necessary to keep it organized in order to use it -- and there was the crux of the problem. I feel like any time I wanted to use it I would have to spend time making space (often due to my children) - organizing, organizing, organizing!! And that doesn't leave much energy for being creative.
So looking at all these supplies and memorabilia waiting to be made into fabulous scrapbooks has me frustrated and determined that in our next place I set up a room as "my space" -- no kids allowed and I set some "my time" aside -- no kids allowed either. I did really enjoy looking through the few things I have created.

I'm determined to graduate from a scrapbook supply collector to a scrapbook maker!!

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

No one blogs anymore!

Kind of sad to see that Facebook has been the nemesis of our family blog. Especially because Facebook is just tiny bits of info and doesn't generally tell a story. I think I'll try to resurrect our blog -- really tell our story, even if does take more effort -- it's worth it in the end.

Currently our family is preparing to sell our home in Smyrna Delaware and most of us are moving to Ohio -- Tori is electing to stay in Delaware at least that's the plan for now.

I'll post our journey here and snippets on Facebook.

Our last project was updating our kitchen -- took about two weeks (8 days of solid work). We're hoping the new owners will love it as much as we do. No lie -- I'm not happy that someone else is going to benefit from all our hard work -- lived in this house for 8 years and finally have the changes accomplished all to leave it -- not cool at all! But it is what it is -- and I'll get over it -- but you better believe I'm not going to wait 8 years in the next house!!!